No matter the reasons behind your arrest, the whole situation is upsetting and costly. You may feel like you are the only one who has been affected, but in reality, it has also impacted someone close to you, such as a family member or friend. Everyone deals with the arrest of a loved one differently. It is important to move forward after an arrest but it also takes hard work and dedication in order to resolve any issues that resulted from it. The hard work that you put into it will pay off in the end.
The Impact on Loved Ones
It’s important to never underestimate the impact your arrest has on your loved ones. The process of being arrested is not only scary and stressful for yourself, but it is also scary and stressful for your loved ones. If you are in a relationship or have children, they are all affected. Children especially are affected because they are afraid their loved one is being taken away and will never return home. Parents, friends, neighbors, and even co-workers can be affected, especially if they have helped you out financially or have helped out with others matters that need tending to while you are absent. Simply saying you’re sorry may not address the deeper matters. The following are different areas in which your relationships can suffer and ideas as to how you can make things right.
Restore Broken Trust
If you are arrested for something that you have been arrested for before, then you should already know that broken trust is going to be an issue you will have to deal with. It doesn’t matter if your arrest was for something minor or something major, your relationship will be shaken in some way. Your loved one may have a hard time believing that you won’t get in trouble again. If you have children or have a close relationship with a child, he or she may not trust that you will always be there for them. As for parents and friends, they may find it hard to believe that you are doing everything you can to get your life back on track; therefore, leading to disappointment.
Instead of feeling sorry for yourself and playing the blame game, be open and honest and acknowledge the fact that your arrest has affected everyone. Dealing effectively with the outcomes of an unfortunate situation can show how much you care about your loved ones and how they have been affected. If you want your loved ones to trust you again, consider getting help for yourself, such as counseling. Counseling may also help your loved ones to work through fear and trust issues. Through counseling, you can learn different ways of communicating effectively, handling stress, and tips on building trust. Gaining back trust is something you have to do yourself. No one else can do it for you.
Work Through Resentment
Resentment issues may be a result of your arrest if you were gone for a long period of time. Loved ones who have had to take over financial matters and have had to carry things on their own may show a lot of resentment. The main thing you can do is be prepared for it. It doesn’t necessarily matter if you are guilty or innocent, your arrest and amount of time you were away does put the lives of others at a standstill. The unexpected stress can cause resentment, but that doesn’t mean they don’t love you. It is important to remember that being honest is key. You won’t be able to alter the past, but you can work toward restoring and healing any pain that has been caused. Receiving help from a counselor or therapist can help you do just that.
Pay It Back
Asking someone to bail you out of jail may be one of the hardest things you’ve had to do. Not only do you owe them an apology, but you also owe them money. Paying back your loved one is important in order to minimize any distrust and resentment. Bailing someone out of jail isn’t always easy and can have a major effect on their financial well-being.
Here at AAAA Bail Bonds, we know the toll an arrest can have on not only you but your loved ones, too. That’s why we are here to help. We have payment plans and financing available, we are flexible, easy to work with, and available 24/7. Call us today at (936) 539-4444 so our staff can help you get started on getting back on track.